5 strategies to embrace your failures and bounce back

  • Whether you like it or not, you’re bound to run into setbacks and stumbles throughout your career.
  • Going after your goals will require you to make some mistakes, but workplace success coach Melody Wilding says it’s critical the learn how to bounce back.
  • Put your fears into perspective by asking yourself, “Will this concern really matter weeks, months, or years from now?” 
  • Be kind to yourself — release your emotions, avoid putting yourself down, and connect with people who make you happy. 
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Failure is an F word you need to embrace.

Failures aren’t as scary and life-ending as we make them out to be. In fact, there’s gold that can be mined from our slip-ups and setbacks.

That’s easier said than done, so here are a few tips to help you rebound the next time you’re feeling like a failure or down about a mistake or stumble. 

How to rebound from setbacks

Don’t push away your emotions; embrace them.

Give yourself permission to release any feelings of anger, guilt, or self-blame so that you can move on. Remember, you’re human and bound to have moments when you don’t perform at your best. As much as your inner perfectionist rails against that idea and chastises you, be kind to yourself.

Apply the 10/10/10 test

Slow down your thinking and separate fact from fiction in your mind: Will this concern matter 10 weeks from now? 10 months from now? 10 years? Your answers will put things in perspective.

Check your self-talk

You may be prone to catastrophic statements like, “I feel so stupid” or “Nothing is going according to plan.” Unhook from unhelpful thinking with reframing. For example, “I keep messing up at work” becomes “I’m having the thought that I’m not accomplishing enough, and I feel frustrated because of it.” Balanced self-talk lowers stress and boosts problem-solving. 

Connect to recalibrate

It’s tempting to retreat and wallow alone. Resist the urge to isolate. Call or text the one buddy who puts a smile on your face, no matter what.

Go on the offense

Instead of shuddering away from failure, build immunity to it. This process, called desensitization, involves gradually exposing yourself to scary situations until the anxiety dissipates. The more comfortable you get having difficult conversations, for example, the easier they become (and the more your confidence grows as a result).

  • Look for low-stakes opportunities to start showing your work to new people, for example.
  • Set up a regular one-on-one with your boss.
  • Create a weekly date night with your partner so you can have important conversations. 

You can’t and won’t please everyone all the time. Setbacks are a natural consequence of going for your goals.

Remember, at the end of the day the opinion that matters the most is yours.

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